connected parenting, trauma

find the meaning behind hard words

When we hear "you're mean," we might really be hearing… I don't like what you're saying. I want to hit you but I'm learning how to use my words instead. When we hear "you're not my mom," we might really be hearing... It's scary to start to love you. Please don't go away like my… Continue reading find the meaning behind hard words

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when parents get (physically) hurt

I waved to my kids as they rode by in the car with my husband. I pushed by toddler in his stroller to get coffee and a scone for him. I walked back home. One block from our house, I stopped and looked in all directions to see cars waiting at stop signs for us… Continue reading when parents get (physically) hurt

7 children's books about feelings

7 children’s books about feelings

This post contains affiliate links. The Connected Nest will receive a small compensation if you make a purchase after clicking on the links, but these product recommendations are genuine. It's wise of us to help our kids use words to describe their feelings. It allows them to express themselves verbally instead of physically. It makes them… Continue reading 7 children’s books about feelings

the step you're missing when you connect before correcting your child
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the step you’re missing in “connect, then correct”

Connect, then correct. It's a phrase I've heard for a long time now. At its most simple, it's quite easy. Connect with your child before providing any correction about what they've done. My toddler hits me when I pick him up after he's bolted from me in the parking lot. I connect: "You're mad!" Then… Continue reading the step you’re missing in “connect, then correct”

the best way to respond to your adopted child's challenging behaviors using five principles
connected parenting, TBRI

five principles for challenging behaviors

The IDEAL Response©, drawn from the Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI)®, provides us with five basic principles to employ when faced with challenging behaviors from our foster or adopted children. (Okay, let's be honest. This stuff works with most children in most situations. It's gold.) The acronym provides a basis for remembering these principles. Immediate: Respond immediately… Continue reading five principles for challenging behaviors